Hysteria, state
of melancholy. Depression is a chemistry of compounds
composed of elements frustration, remorse and downfalls.
These elements initiate a chain reaction; generating depression
as its end product.
Quite often we come across people gasping noxious drugs
like heroin. Who are these people? They are the product
of this chain reaction. Why are they inhaling a toxic?
They were passing a sensible life like you and me. Perhaps
one day they fell off skies or skies fell on them. One
thing is certain, something hit their lives real bad.
Then got so distressed that they could not search for
better elucidation to their predicament.
The phenomena of depression held hostage their mind and
soul. They live in present but their thoughts and minds
wander in past. Because they just want that instant to
come back again with the intention that they can amend
it. They discuss them on and off ,just to lessen their
encumbrance.
A software developer by profession, how can I explain
this intricate phenomenon? Well my father fell a victim
to this. Believe me the agony and pain which I and my
family, went through his ailment period is absolutely
agonizing. And I always prey that no body shall become
its victim.
My father served Army for 23 years. Regarded a resolute
chap by his military buddies still he faced paramount
resistance in overcoming this phenomenon.
Depression is a phenomenon which encapsulates ones thinking
and abilities. It makes one feel aloof. It creates an
impression on ones mind that ones family and acquaintances
abhor one. One begins to deem oneself a liability. Ones
harangue and approach towards life becomes negative. It
compels one to think that one has touched rock bottom.
These depress souls wander in past because depression
rusts their hope in their individuality and faith in God.
It pushes them towards suicide because it extracts life
from them. It makes them a living ghost.
Like every disease has a cure. Similarly depression has
a cure as well. Depress people go to psychiatrist.
Though his cures work but a heavy responsibility lies
on victim’s family. Effective coordination between
a psychiatrist and victim’s family always yields
positive results.
A depression patient needs to be understood by ones family.
No special treatment is required. Behave with one in a
normal manner. Avoid talks that could possibly regenerate
ones past. Make one realize the credentials and abilities.
Always give a positive push. Encourage that nothing is
impossible. Never let the victim to sit idly. Engage one
in activities. Give examples of people around who Inspite
of colossal losses are coping with life in a successful
manner.
By exercising all this you are strengthening will power,
regenerating hope and bringing one back towards life.
You are activating ones nerves and motivating and energizing
ones self-belief.
The victim’s family is the one who can normalize
and reprogram the victim. Make one feel its you we need.
The misery that craft, murk’s
your existence,
Diminish, the supremacy of your resistance,
Which escort to your superfluous demolition,
What’s the advantage of such apprehension? |
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Wife,
My wife
Every body desires to have a mobile phone, a
car, reasonable place to live and a trendy wife
as his life partner. Mobile phones, cars and places
to live are bountiful. But trendy wife’s
are not.
Whenever I observe different dimensions of couple.
I recall the famous Amitabh song ‘Jis ki
biwi moti us ka bhi Bara nam ha, Jis ki biwi kali
us ka bhi Bara nam ha, and so on………………..’Who
ever wrote the lyrics must have done a thorough
research work on different combinations of couples
(My discussion is related to Male and Female,
not…) .For some I say love is blind. And
for some I say their love is really worth it.
Quite often among friends when the issue of marriage
is brought up in our discussion. I seldom wait
to hit my point. My wife will be trendy. Forgetting
the fate of one of my cousins. My handsome cousin
spent nearly a year, searching for his ideal girl
in town .His campaign ended with an opposite outcome.
For him this part of Amitabh songs fit in perfectly,’
Jis ki biwi moti us ka bhi Bara nam ha’.
Sorry Bhabi Ji.
Now days it has become a common practice that
people register themselves with Marriage Bureaus.
The search for a perfect wife and bride is not
confined to friends and relatives. Now it’s
a door-to-door search.
Person seeking his ideal girl and his households
are always excited by the moment, visiting different
people they never have known before, eating lots
of lots of food from every house. At the end of
a day they are too confused.
Make up accessories have done wonders for women
world over. Keep your excitement low. A girl,
who may emulate the beauty of Miss world in your
first meeting, may give you a scare when she takes
off her make up.
I have not been married as yet. Though I dream
of a trendy wife. But keeping aside my cravings
for marriage, I have learned quite a few handy
lessons from my cousins.
If beauty is your sole parameter, remember to
take home economics classes before your marriage.
Because you may end up making bed teas and sandwiches,
as wife and life always takes times to settle.
If you are miser person, then practice to become
spendthrift. As most of the time you will be following
your wife in shopping malls carrying her shopping
bags.
Practice to open and close both ears when time
arrives. Remember to give equal rights to wife
and mother. Otherwise you will be in big trouble.
Like my cousin, very cheerful on his marriage
day. Three days after marriage he came to our
house. Apa my wife has left the house and so as
my mother. Please give me some breakfast. (He
calls my mother Apa) What can I do? So stick to
the policy of equal rights.
When you are with your wife, don’t wander
idly. Avoid starring at girls and women that you
used to do. Otherwise get ready for pat on the
back. Your world is now your wife, my dear.
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